our coordinator

is wonderful. 

i refused to not have a coordinator at our wedding because that would be ridiculous. and stressful. while i could have maybe asked a friend to do it, it felt a bit easier to speak with a few people who were professionals since… they are better at it than other people. haha

our coordinator. is. awesome. she just happens to know friends of mine that are very dear to me, and she also went to the same school as the fiance! what a small world! and they even recognized each other! YAY LIFE!

about 2 weeks ago, we met at the reception venue so that she could see where it is, what it looks like, how much work it would be, etcetc. she also got to meet the guy that will be in charge of the venue itself! actually… that was the first time i met him as well! and he’s the best! but we’re talking about my coordinator right now, so *ahem* let me get back at it.

so she walks in, looks around, says hi to everyone, is smiling the entire time… and then she starts asking questions. and that’s when i was blown away. i mean… i THINK that SOMETIMES i’d want to be doing wedding planning and coordinating, so i think i ask the right questions most of the time. but that moment was the first time i was so confident and happy with our decision with our specific person.

there are many great qualities about her. however, her questions convinced me that she knows what she’s talking about… WAY more than i could have probably imagined. asking questions not just about set-up and such, but about the legal aspects of what can be where, the electrical cord make-up of the venue, what type of gas or whatever can be used to cook inside the building… i mean. maybe these questions are obvious to everyone else. but as a person who thinks that she is interested in coordinating, i tend to think more about the schedule and setting things up and making everything right. 

as my confidence with my coordinator continued to grow, i also got to experience sitting down with her to coordinate the potential schedule for the day of the wedding. that was another amazing experience. we grabbed some dinner and talked about the people who are involved in the party, who is standing where, etcetc. her attention to detail is not only impeccable… but she is also well-rounded in her questions, her knowledge about weddings and events in general, and her ability to give sound opinions and advice.

it will likely be semi-crazy that day with our particular type of wedding… so i am very very very happy with everything and i feel much calmer placing these things into her and her team’s hands :)

ever wondering if you should/shouldn’t get a coordinator that’s professional? get one. 

 

 

picking sides

“do you like mommy better or daddy better?”

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that was a common question i received as a child. as i grew older, that question ceased to be asked… but i got this question so often as a child… and the question is still asked to kids today. how odd that we ask such a question to a vulnerable child, yes?

my answer was always, “i love them both equally”. it was a very simple and fair answer. some kids say mommy or daddy, which i actually admire because they are the decision makers. the ones who know what they like. the ones who voice their opinions. i, on the otherhand, am a people pleaser. and God forbid, my parents ever find out what my answer would be.

as an (sort of not really) adult, i can very clearly say that i love my parents equally. but i can also confidently (and ashamedly) say this:

i often times favor my daddy over my mommy. 

if i had to choose sides, i would likely pick my daddy’s side. if i needed to talk to someone about something serious, i would probably talk to daddy. if i needed advice, i’d probably ask daddy. if my parents got in a fight, i’d probably understand daddy’s point of view more than mommy’s.

there are several reasons for this that we don’t have to get into at the moment… but there are two points to this throw back:

1. i need to change my attitude towards my mommy. and it’s been a slow but steady process
2. it relates to other types of relationships, particularly as i get closer to being a wife = being one entity with someone else

let’s talk about the first thing. during this entire wedding planning process, my mama has been the “involved” parent. daddy is not a crafter, nor does he think about color schemes or dresses or whatever. that is my mama. my strong, wonderful, loving, and opinionated mama. but when i step back, i realize that the reason i tend to be on my daddy’s side more than my mama’s is because of i SEE and WITNESS my mama SO MUCH MORE than my daddy. how can one possibly say more negative things about the person they see less of or spend less time with?

don’t get me wrong. my family spends a lot of quality time together, particularly as we have gotten older. daddy is definitely not an absent father. however, the nagging, opinions, yelling, daily life stuff… that’s all mama. i make it sound like i have a bad relationship with mama. i TOTALLY don’t. i love my mommy SO much. we talk all the time.

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ore like… i talk to her all the time -.- haha anyway..

i now have 36 days until the wedding. as i get closer to being married, i keep thinking about my relationship with my mama. what i’ve learned is that, yes, i may “pick sides” sometimes… but the general principle is that i should love unconditionally. that i should take her side when she needs it. that i should be more open to understanding her opinions. afterall… she’s human. and i know i am very much like her in so many ways.

 

secondly… this has brought up so much learning on my side about relationships in general. whether it’s involving someone from church, someone of the same gender, some of the opposite gender, someone you grew up with, new friends, old friends… whatever. what i’ve learned is that in these relationships and crazy circles of friends and mutuality, you sometimes have to pick sides. it’s the same concept here.

love unconditionally.

always. but… sometimes you have to pick sides. and that goes for other people. sometimes THEY have to pick sides.. and it might not be your side.

your decisions and actions DO affect relationships in a powerful way.

whatever you do or say or decide doesn’t just affect yourself. i have had to make some really difficult but clear choices about who i will stick by. but what i’ve learned (again), is that i still need to unconditionally love the people i don’t stick by. people’s decisions or actions or words are not in my control, nor are they for me to judge. and vice versa… things i’ve done or said or thought have caused those around me to CHOOSE to leave my side.

it’s a hard truth that i have been struggling with for years. and in the end, those who have deserted me may not feel the same way about loving unconditionally. but i have peace knowing that i will continue to strive to love others unconditionally.

 

what does this have to do with wedding and wedding planning? as i get closer to being a wife, i recognize that my relationships with people will not be the same. essentially, bun and i will be one entity. which means that we will together have to also go through life understanding that we cannot please everyone, nor can everyone expect us to defend them over someone else. these thoughts are important because they can build us up to be a stronger married couple that can discuss these issues intellectually, and hopefully, grow from them.

buying items

i have likely mentioned budgets before (excuse me, as i have not re-read my posts… :P). and i’ve probably mentioned that there are a lot of built up costs that can happen. have i mentioned this? just in case i haven’t… let me re-iterate :)

wedding budget is quite an interesting thing. you can have a budget. but my first suggestion to anyone would be.. do NOT max that budget. there will always be additional costs that you may not have thought about. and if you’re obsessive like me, maybe you won’t forget anything. but no one has ever been hurt from saving money here and there. so regardless of the conclusion, you always want to aim below your budget.

in my specific example, we have definitely hit far below our budget for a lot of our wedding expenses, which includes vendors, catering, etc. networking and knowing people really helps. but even if it doesn’t, it always takes the small effort of stepping back to see what you ACTUALLY care about in your wedding and what you don’t care about. not even just a wedding. for ANY event. once you take that step back, you can actually save a LOT of money.

so this has given us a little more freedom to buy decorative things for the wedding!

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like these tins! and more tins! and glass jars! i will not be revealing what these are used for yet since.. the only people who read this will likely already be coming to the wedding :)

i also started doing some crafts!

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his is the name of one of my bridesmaids. and i feel awesome for making this because i really just completely upgraded my DIY ability. it was difficult to really budget something like this because who knows how much the paper will really cost. or the ink to print crap. or the epoxy stickers (which.. i had NO idea what they were before this). even the caps themselves! you would have to search and figure out where you will get the lowest price. so these things are hard to budget.

again.

AIM BELOW YOUR BUDGET. then you’ll feel better about these purchases that you won’t know the exact price on.

and…. i had my second mama paint these:

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AND THEY ARE PERFECT! imagine if i didn’t have the budget for them?!!!?!??!

 

i’m a happy girl :)

on a side note, i got a pedicure with my mama and this was my color of choice:

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up. orange. not surprising.

i will be introducing my relationship with my coordinator in my next post! stay tuned!!

so i never finish

a journal. or blog. i never keep up with them. while talking to my wonderous bridesmaid whom i love and adore (*wave* HI! *wave*), i realized that i have never ever finished an actual journal. nor have i kept up with this blog. the closest i’ve gotten is my #100happydays pictures and posts.

so on behalf of you, my wonderful friend that i’d die without, i have come back to actually write in this almost forsaken blog :)<3

as everyone may have noticed, i have not kept up with the blog very well. HOWEVER, i think i can summarize a lot of things that have been going on in terms of wedding planning. but the main lesson from this entry is:

wedding planning is NEVER EVER JUST about planning a wedding.

there’s regular wedding stuff like:
meeting everyone involved with the wedding
making a schedule for the actual day of. and the day before. and the week before, etc
getting your dress altered
dieting (or pretending to… like yours truly)
making decorations and such
purchasing everything needed for the day
taking care of your skin and hair and nails
etc…etc…etc…

but on TOP of wedding related things:
it’s also looking for a place to live with your significant other.
it’s also looking for a job if that is required.
it’s also keeping up with your everyday life, like family and friends.
it’s also continuing in school (if that is applicable)
it’s also taking care of your mental, physical and emotional health

WHEW.

over the last few months, there have been quite a few instances where i questioned having the type of wedding we are having. these specific situations were horrible because it reminded me of the day i got engaged, and how i thought to myself that we should skip the wedding celebration altogether, and just get married in court… quietly… without people staring at me.

the thought of a large wedding wasn’t off-putting per se. it was just that when i started to think about everyone staring at me as i walked down an aisle… as i said my vows… as i stand at the front… as i do a first dance… etcetc… it made me anxious. actually, it still does.

these tough situations really put my relationships with certain people in a really strange and difficult place. everything is really great and fine, but i came to realize that there are so many things to juggle. how can i juggle them while keeping my mental and emotional health as a priority?

i don’t think i have the perfect answer. but i have an answer that has been working so far. the solution is to tell myself and to truly truly believe that…

i am so blessed. so… beyond belief… blessed.

maybe i didn’t want a wedding. maybe school is stressful. maybe i get into an argument with my parents. maybe the future scares me. but when i tell myself how blessed i am and believe it, i feel ease. because knowing that i am so blessed… makes me so grateful about everything else. nothing seems really that difficult. nothing seems that annoying.

i really am going to miss living in san diego though…

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going forward, i shall have more detailed posts. but for now, this is my apologetic post for being so absent. i’ll try harder. i promise :)

 

 

can’t WAIT to be married!

this is the worst blog ever. why? because it’s updated every bajillion years. and i’m not unrealistic enough to believe that this blog is read everyday nor do people anticipate an update. so i guess that is the reasoning behind my lack of updating? (i’m horrible, i know)

as you can imagine, there have been some significant progress with wedding planning! a lot of cool things coming up that i will definitely want to update about! up until now, it’s been more of the waiting game since the big things were already done… and it seemed too early to start making things for the wedding… but now that we are 118 days away (EEK!), things are becoming more real! ideas for center pieces and crafts and such are coming together and my wonderful mom is so helpful.

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this is how my mama and i do crafts. we don’t like the idea of sitting and painting things and being feminine, apparently…

 

it’s sunday here and i’m actually visiting the fiance for the first time at his school!

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seriously. could i get any worse? i’ve never visited him before because he always wanted to visit san diego… but it’s been nice being around him while he studies. since it’s also finals week for me, i got a lot done and felt obligated to actually update this thing :)

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this is a side note, but while we were studying, he was getting sick of it and was saying how he wasn’t motivated and didn’t want to study anymore and such… and he turned the page and…. yea. that’s not very nice, fate! haha

 

so while i was here, i got to see my good friend from undergrad who is also in medical school where daniel goes. i love love love her (hi debbie!!) and we got to catch up and talk. she got married last august at a beautiful venue over in san juan capistrano. as we were talking about marriage, wedding, and married life, she said something about how happy she is to be married. not in that lovey dovey unrealistic way… but where there is such stability and grounding that feels so secure from knowing that you are married to someone and will come home to them and you will be theirs and they will be yours for forever.

now that might scare some people. but i totally agree with her. as much as i like having my independence and like doing my own thing, i find myself getting more and more excited to be a married person who is with someone not just because they are so adorable and wonderful in all they do… but because being married brings that sense of security that goes beyond even just committing to someone and them committing to you in words or even in action. marriage is not just biblical… but it’s for life. and that doesn’t scare me at all. actually, it really really sounds super exciting!

i could be bias because i love doing things like cooking and sitting at home reading and doing my work and going grocery shopping. i do all these things all the time regardless of if bun is there or not. but when i’m married to bun, it’s like i will get to share doing that with him and for him and enjoy it even more than i already do on my own. he doesn’t define me and my happiness, but boy, does he add to it in immeasurable ways. and just by existing!

i’m reading a book called “One Way Love” about how we have a grace that goes beyond our comprehension. even though we believe that we are unconditionally loved in our heads, we still act as though we aren’t. we try so hard to receive grace or create conditions. and as i get closer to getting married to daniel, even though i think i’m too young and immature for such commitment sometimes, this book keeps reminding me that faith is trusting in that type of grace. and i want to be someone like that unconditionally.

so i do have a lot of updates. but they will come slowly and more regularly as spring break approaches :) until next time, happy planning!

stuff happens

this past week, daniel and i have had multiple incidences that occurred that were… inconvenient. 

first.. we found out that our contact at our reception venue… quit. yes. QUIT. i mean, that’s not in anyone’s control. but our point of contact is no longer there. if you really think about it, it makes sense. even if someone is a veteran of a location, anyone can leave anytime from anywhere.

then, i found out that the person i had booked for make-up and hair had to leave the country. again, out of my control. but things happen. i’m sad i won’t have her, but what can i do?

so what is the advice/point here?

1. be aware of how your vendors respond. with both incidences, i had quite different responses. the first place, i found out she quit because of an automated response. i had to reach out to the new person, who wasn’t very responsive. this is worrisome. but eventually, they responded and gave us the information we need. the second vendor was very professional. they offered profuse apologies, explained the situation, offered free cancellation, offered better service options… because of their professionalism, i feel great about working with them. much more than the first vendor, at least.

2. be prepared. you can never know if someone is going to quit or leave. be prepared to explain things that the new person may not know. have everything organized and in order the instant you receive information so that you can pull it out if something like that happens. 

3. have backup. it doesn’t have to be a set place or anything. but have a few ideas of places/vendors/people that you can reference or go back to. someone you like. someone that you know you’d get along with. someone you’d likely would have chosen if not for your current choice. 

4. be calm. things will work out. if the vendors suck, you can leave. things will come around. you’re getting married, which means people who love and care for you will help you as needed.

there are many many things out of our own control. the quicker we can this, the better we can respond. 

6 more months!

It’s been a while and I swear it’s for a good reason. Sort of.

Today, I’d like to talk about time management! I know this is sort of an obvious as people are stuck to wedding planning calendars that tell you what you should get done when. There are timelines for these things. DUH.

But let’s talk about time management in another way. MOST of the time, those getting married are not just planning their wedding 100% of the time. I will use me as an example (because I’m just that awesome :P). I am a full-time student, I have a job (internship) that I work 24-32 hours a week, I’m applying for jobs post-graduation, and I am heavily involved with my school’s student board. Not to mention, I have family. And friends (or so I like to believe…)

Wedding planning is an additional thought to everything else you’re already thinking about. So what are my practice steps and advice?

  1. DON’T call it stress. I know that’s moronic sounding because… of COURSE it’s stressful! But do you know that our brains are actually very convincible? No matter what situation you’re in, the word “stress” has a negative connotation. So WHY associate a negative word with such a happy affair?! I like to just say “There is a LOT on my mind! But they are all great thoughts!” And honestly, I feel so much better and more energized.
  2. Prioritize! People who have trouble with time management don’t always just procrastinate. They don’t know what to do first. I am SO guilty of doing this at times. I have a notebook called “CRAP I HAVE TO DO/BUY” and I fill it up with… well… crap. I find that if I put it in the order of importance (think deadlines or feasibility), I will go straight down the list. I know this sounds like too much work. But it’s a new year. Reform yourself ;)
  3. PICK A THEME, LIST OUT ESSENTIALS. Pick a theme. Pick the items you NEED/WANT to get that theme accomplished. Write it down. Keep it safe. Seriously. And add to the list as you go. What a LOT of girls do is get over-excited, try and do a million bajillion projects, buy materials for them, and in the end, they are unable to do it all. Pick the essentials FIRST. Get those done. THEN add.
  4. PIN IT/SAVE IT IN YOUR CART. More and more weddings are DIY now. Pinterest will literally save your day. Everything is RIGHT FRIGGIN THERE. Just. Do. It. If you have items you need to get, put it into a cart on amazon or whatever other site you’ll use. Keep it there. That way, when you decide to buy items for projects or what not, it’s already saved for you.
  5. Get it EARLY. Ok. This section has MULTIPLE ways to be applied. If you KNOW you’re going to do a certain project for sure, there is NO reason for you to not purchase the necessary items when you can. My mommy is currently storing all wedding related items and projects in one section of the house. It’s all there. I won’t have that project just IN MY HEAD for the next several months or so. It’s there. I just have to START it. Which goes with…
    1. START IT EARLY! DON’T PROCRASTINATE. Seriously. You can make things ahead of time (non-perishable, obviously) and just leave it there. You are BOUND to have a million things to do the month before, 2 weeks before, the week before and DAY before the wedding. Get that crap out of the way 

I want to focus on point five in non-project/wedding related ways. Because this is a HUGE deal for a lot of people I know. Once you’re married you have to think about…

Shared accounts, changing names, apartments, jobs, location of residence, moving, eating, breathing, cooking, decorating, furniture-ing, AHHHHHHH!!!

 

It’s a lot. I truly believe that it’s NEVER too early to start searching for these things. People typically take around a year to plan a wedding. During that year, you can accomplish a lot for the wedding. But you can ALSO accomplish a lot for the REST of your life. Remember the end goal :) and you will be MUCH more at ease, I promise :P

thoughts in israel

i was in israel from about 10 days, which sort of explains by absence.. but not since i tend to have long periods of absences. prepare for a long(ish) post!

i have had a wonderful trip and am so excited that i got to spend time here. i will likely reflect more on the things i’ve witnessed, the talks i’ve heard, and the memories i’ve made. but for this entry, i will be writing about things i’ve reflected upon during my trip there.

i came here with other students from my MBA program. unfortunately, there were some events that came about that helped me re-evaluate some of my thoughts and also re-establish some of my morals of proper behavior. i shall list them out now:

1. don’t be mean.
simple. or so i thought. apparently, it’s easier for people to say discouraging things than encouraging things. it really blows my mind when, at this age, people can say things that are just flat out mean. i know that i’ve probably said some mean things in my life, and with huge regret. and from my conscious behavior, i don’t think i’ve ever said anything mean to someone since the age of – i dont know – 15 or younger. as people get older, i thought that being mean would diminish. we aren’t BORN mean. yet… with maturity comes the ability to withhold mean comments. don’t be mean. don’t say mean things. don’t call someone something to their face. it’d be better if we didn’t talk behind people’s backs as well… but saying it to their face is just tactless, rude, and unnecessary.

2. your mood doesn’t define everyone else’s.
this one also blows my mind. i’ve had plenty of angry and sad days. but my natural instinct has been not to share that feeling with everyone around me with no regards to my audience’s feelings. obviously, there are exceptions. i wouldn’t expect someone who just had an extremely sad moment in their lives to just perk up. but when someone is in a bad mood because they’re cranky or sleepy or hungry or something of the like, it makes NO sense to me that they’d feel the need to express it to everyone else. my 7 year old baby cousin wakes up cranky and will maybe act cranky. but even my 10 year old baby cousin doesn’t wake up cranky and act cranky to everyone. he gets over it. why? because why the hell would anyone want to experience what you’re experiencing. my 10 year old cousin gets this concept. makes sense that 20+ year olds would get it, right? this comes back to that whole statement of “the world doesn’t revolve around you”. yes. the world does NOT revolve around you. please stop.

3. THINK before you talk.
this sort of connects to the “don’t be mean” one. but it also goes for other things. there are individuals who do not know what is appropriate or inappropriate to say at certain times. or those who don’t think about what they are saying, and say too much. words can be dangerous. the more someone talks, the more opportunity there is for that person to say something they don’t mean. i’m obviously not perfect, but it blows my mind when someone doesn’t recognize the importance of thinking before speaking. 

4. what you see first is not what you get in the long run.
now to connect this all. i wouldn’t be surprised at ALL if someone reads this and thinks, “christine… this is YOU”. but with confidence, i can say it’s not. because most people associate my hyper and mostly happy bahaviors as being immature and loud. yes, the volume of my voice can get quite high. that does not immediately translate to being overly wordy or being mean or being cranky. i’ve learned to deal very well with people stating opinions about me. but the older i get, i realize that this is exactly what separates friends from acquaintances. my natural instinct has been to ignore someone who says “christine, you’re so loud” or any comment of the sort. i know that my parents have raised me much better than that. no one recognizes that i am observant or a good friend. they recognize the external. and this happens SO often to SO many people. (i’m just using me as an example). over the years, my friends have been those that have been slow to judge and quick to observe my character. not what they see first. (let’s be clear… i’m not saying i’m the best person in the world. this is an example for anyone. we often miss the positives of people. people can definitely live without me or without having a relationship with me. that’s not the point. the point is that i am using me as an example. yes? yes :P)

 

to be clear, points 1-3 are not for just first-glance type of situations. they are characteristics that people have (maybe innately). i may need to work on number 4 by not assuming that a mean statement from a person isn’t actually a mean person. or maybe that someone who talks too much isn’t thinking before they speak. but an overall consensus is… it’s typically a characteristic of that individual or else it wouldn’t happen over and over again.

 

funny how i had these thoughts during my trip to israel. i’ve obviously experienced MUCH more, which i’m sure will be reflected in future blog posts. but these were the thoughts that i wanted to express because i had such great conversations during the trip about relationships and the experiences we were having in the country. and ultimately, these relationship discussions concluded these 4 points:

1. being mean doesn’t get you far in relationships

2. being moody can push people away from you. which is the opposite of having a relationship.

3. having no filter can ruin relationships as well.

4. everybody knows that nobody really knows. (listen to everybody knows – john legend) don’t be quick to judge.

 

as i head back home and start preparing to go to hawaii, i will definitely have more wedding related posts. my family, daniel and i are going to kauai and i will be forcing daniel to do wedding planning with me. yes. forcing. hehe

have you noticed…?

that i am NOT blogging daily?! haha DUH. i don’t think everyone will notice such a small detail, but i took out the word “daily” from my subtitle. WHOOHOO me.

another reason? i have come up with a couple, actually:

1. i don’t think about the wedding everyday… *GASP*
2. i’m busy
3. i’m tired
4. i’m lazy. sometimes.

and in 1 day… i’m going to ISRAEL! yes, ISRAEL! one more time in all capital… ISRAEL!!!! I KNOW! im going to new york for a layover and will see a college friend or two. or three :) im very excited. as of now.. i’m just SO BUSY i can’t think. since i’ll be out of the country, i don’t think i’ll be able to write nearly as much as i want. maybe if i get the chance, i’ll update about israel and my experiences there. not wedding related…

BUT… i WILL write about something very very cool. very…. i think it’s my favorite organizational tool for the wedding thus far…

one thing we have started doing is sending out a form to our friends via email to get their addresses for both the save-the-dates and invitation. this… is an awesome tool:

Google Form

what it does is help you create a template where people can fill in information. all responses will save into an excel sheet for your convenience! so daniel and i had a section for someone to write in their name, a section to get their address, and a section to write a comment. once we check our excel sheet for responses, we see their name in one column, their address in the next, and any comments in the next!

even if the person doesn’t have a google or gmail account, the link created for the form will open from any server. daniel even went on his cell phone to see if the mobile view was convenient… and it is! i strongly suggest you use it for collecting any information. it could probably be used for surveys, information collection… ANYTHING. be creative. be fun. be spontaneous! …but don’t be annoying.

and… for those who know me, i love my excel sheets for organizing everything :) so this really is perfection.

 

… i was about to end the entry, but i forgot to mention that hopefully, i will have a lot more updates and insights after israel when i go to hawaii! my family and daniel and i are going to hawaii the day after israel. and yes, i do plan on forcing daniel to do some wedding planning with me while we’re there because we are never together. vicious? i know ;)

guestlist :)

The guestlist can be one of the most stressful parts to create during wedding planning. On average, a couple will spend over $150 per guest at their wedding which includes venue fees, food, rental, desserts, etc. As guests, we often underestimate how difficult it can be to come up with a guestlist that 1.) is affordable and 2.) includes everyone the couple would like to invite.

When coming up with the guestlist, I assume that you already know your budget and also know the maximum number of people you can invite according to the costs of everything else. Here are some things to consider when making your final guestlist:

1.       Write down your family that you will need to invite first.
2.       Write your wedding party and their significant others
3.       You do NOT need to give everyone plus ones!
          a.        HOWEVER! Don’t expect people to be happy if you invite them and not their significant others. Case and point: if a friend has been dating someone for a while, or is married, or is engaged, their significant other should be in the guestlist. Random plus ones, I understand that you may not want them there unless you have money to toss… but don’t expect happy feelings if you invite a friend but tell them you don’t have space for their boyfriend/girlfriend or fiancé.
4.       Make a separate list of people you’re not sure about. You can always add them in if you hit under what your number is.
5.       Your list should include (depending on how big your wedding will be) a handful of people more than you’d want. 100% attendance is never the case. So if you plan on having a 200 person wedding, you can invite up to 225 safely.

 

Personally, I always thought I wanted a huge wedding. I thought that the more people that attended my wedding, the more loved I would feel. We all want to feel loved, for goodness sakes! But as I grew in my relationship with Daniel, even BEFORE getting engaged, I found that dream fading away. But it was peaceful. It was different… but comfortable.

I have come to this conclusion: the guestlist should consist of people that love you, love your significant other, and will likely be (in some shape or form) a part of your relationship post-wedding. You don’t need to invite the whole world. Heck, you don’t even need to invite people who’ve invited you to their own wedding! Invite those that will bless your future. Anyone that feels like an obligation, is probably someone you should put in the “maybe” list.

Remember: marriage is forever. Marriage is sacred. The wedding is the beginning of that sacredness. Those who will be witnessing such a sacred union should be somewhat important in your lives.